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Boost your libido and give her a night to remember

English: A space filling diagram of gamma-lino...

English: A space filling diagram of gamma-linolenic acid. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Do as Frankie says
“Out of the 40% of people who claim to have sex more than three times a week, most are probably overestimating,” believes Dr Sarah Brewer, author of Increase Your Sex Drive. So, though you might think that everyone but you is at it like rabbits, this is unlikely to be the case. Often, adds Brewer, a decreased libido is simply the result of stress – and all you need to get back on tip-top form is to learn how to relax. Something as simple as taking a bath can significantly lower the cortisol (the stress-inducing hormone) levels in your body.

Sexy supplementation
Another way to give your sex drive a bit of a hike, explains Brewer, is to get your hands on supplements which can boost nutrients your body may be lacking. “Evening Primrose Oil is especially good; it contains the building blocks for your sex drive that 80% of us are deficient in.” Specifically the plant oil contains gamma-linolenic acid (GLA), an essential fatty acid (EFA) in the omega-6 family that cannot be made in the body. This EFA’s needed for maintenance of the reproductive processes, as well as normal brain function, growth and development and regulation of metabolism.

Ginseng supplements may also work. “Not only do they have properties which help the body adapt to stress, they can also have aphrodisiac benefits,” says Brewer. A standard multi-vitamin supplement with added minerals is also a good idea. Try Holland & Barrett‘s ABC Plus (£4.99 for 100).

Know your cycles
Though they’re not so pronounced as in women, hormone cycles also occur in men. Levels of testosterone, for instance, vary throughout the month. This may be due to a throwback evolutionary pressure on men to raise and subdue sexual activity in harmony with female fertility. Sex therapist Suzie Hayman suggests you look for patterns. “There may be an unconscious response to your partner’s sexual state and this can, unfortunately, be completely out of sync.” She recommends charting arousal states for both you and your partner over a few months. That way you can work out when in her cycle to get her on top of the washing machine.

Six simple linguistic cues that tell her you’re the right man for tonight

“I screwed up, and want to hear your thoughts”

Whether you blabbed a good friend’s secret or reversed into your neighbour’s car, admit it. Confessing an error in judgement leaves you exposed and vulnerable, which makes a woman want to wrap you in her arms. Telling her about it wins her over even more – you’re showing that you value her opinion. The resulting combo of compassion and confidence will inspire her to make everything all better – or at least distract you.

“Did you know you have a heart-shaped freckle on the back of your left thigh?”

After the first few months of sex, top-to-toe body exploration yields to cut-to-the-chase carnality. That’s a shame, because having her body mapped puts a woman in the mood for luxurious sex. Pull aside the blankets on a weekend morning and run your eyes and fingertips from her toes to her earlobes, making admiring comments along the way. You won’t get past her elbows before she pulls you in for a deep, wet kiss.

“I’m organizing a team of volunteers to work at the spa”

Whether it’s climbing mountains with underprivileged kids or carrying the neighbour’s groceries, helping others boosts your sexy factor for two reasons. First, altruism shows her that you can put your own needs aside, which inspires her to take care of them for you. Second, your good deeds make her feel as if she’s dating up, because clearly you’re a better person than she is. She’ll want to join forces with you on your life’s quest.

“You must be exhausted. Let’s take a hot shower and I’ll scrub your back”

The number-one reason your partner turns down sex is because she’s stressed. And while she knows there’s no better cure for wound-up nerves than a spring-release orgasm, it can be hard to shake off the day’s distractions. By blasting the hot water and lighting candles, you’ll offer a tension-melting solution she can’t refuse. Once the hot water and your soapy hands chase the stress away, she’ll finally feel sexy again.

“I want to accomplish a few key things in the next five years”

When a woman hears a man talk about the future with a “whatever” attitude, her level of respect for him drops and her thighs snap shut. She was surrounded by way too many of those directionless dudes back at varsity, and she has learnt that men who have clear goals and realistic plans for achieving them are rare. She’ll appreciate your far-sightedness all the more. Making up your mind settles hers, as well.

“I’m taking the day off tomorrow to chaperon my niece’s primary school outing”

While a woman is impressed by a man who’s driven to succeed, she’s even more tantalised by a striver who’s willing to put a family member first – extra points if that family member is under 12. She’ll instantly flash-forward to when you’re the sweet, caring father of her children, at which point her heart will go all gooey. Come back from your kiddie outing with a cute stuffed animal for her and she’ll practically drag you into bed.

Last night, I StumbleUpon an old article I wrote for the Mouithsone Magazine few months ago, and thought I should update it, Below I’m going to show you how my husband artfully take off my stockings

1: He takes a seat and position his standing with my back to him. Strokes my legs, then playfully tug at my suspenders. What he’s really doing is divining how they’re attached without appearing anything less than masterful.

2: He tackles the back ones first means I won’t notice any slight fumbles. The clasp comprises a hook and stopper. He Slips his thumb behind the stopper and slide up and loosen from the hook to free the stocking.

3: He turns me around to kiss my stomach and thighs again and repeat the process with the clasps on the front. Some have simple tension clasps that he can just pull apart. Which means more time for the next bit, that gets me wet, and ready for heard sex.

4: Once I’m unclipped, He lays me down on the bed and stand or kneel so he can lift my leg to his chest. He starts at the top of the stocking and slowly roll it down. He never pulls from the foot as this warps the material.

5: And he does the same for the other leg. This technique gives him a full and tantalising view of the big unveiling and having him straighten my leg will give it a noticeably flattering shape. I will certainly notice.

6: Whether he removes the suspender belt is a matter of taste. He reaches underneath and pulls me up to arch my lower back. The clasp will be like the one on my bra, so this should be familiar territory.

Good Luck.

Two days ago, I had a coffee with a friend of mine, and during the time, he ends up sharing with me his struggles with PE (premature ejaculation) ” I’ve always hide my head in shame when people make jokes about Tommy-two-strokes and 30-second lovers, says James.” It shocked be a bit to see a good looking guys to undergo such torture. The I said, you don’t have to feel helpless.

Last year, I found some studies at, this studies found that the use of drugs can help you make the loving last.

The studies published at in the sexual section, used either serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) or phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE-5) against placebo groups and have shown positive results in delaying your ejaculation.

The drugs increase your intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT), which measures the time from popping in your head until it is spent. This was crudely measured by James or his women using a stop watch to track his progress.

Nothing soothes the paranoia of a sexual time challenge quite like a dissatisfied woman with a clock…

But despite the positive timeliness, not everyone is praising the study because it fails to consider other factors on the diagnostic criteria. The International Society of Sexual Medicine included lack of control over ejaculation as well as distress from spilling your beans too quickly.

Other studies in premature ejaculation suggest the issue needs to be understood holistically.

Focus should be given to relationship, psychological, psycho-behavioural and cultural factors as well as the physiological woes that could limit your loving.

Doctors David Rowland and Stewart Cooper, who conducted the study, said the best treatment is a combination of medication and psychosexual therapy to improve your relationship with your partner.

I wish you all the best in your sex life.

My man has admired, explored, stroked, cupped, and caressed my body since he was first able to get away with it. But I believe he can still learn.

I wish he could teach me to enjoy my body as much as he does.


I wish he grabs my butt during sex or when no one’s looking. It’s my least favorite body part, I wish he tells me he loves it, so I could like it more.

In bed, I wish he could start by kissing his way down me spine while gently caressing my butt with your fingertips. When your lips reach her cheeks, kiss and nibble softly, and firmly knead her buns. Attention is flattering.


I wish he could playing with the arch of my foot,giving me an absolute orgasm.

Foot-play can make a so-so session stellar. The part of the brain that processes sensory input for the feet is right next to the part that processes genital stimulation. For some women, there may be some sort of cross wiring between these two parts of the brain. Even if her nerves aren’t entangled, playing with her piggies is worthwhile: Mouithsone Magazine posted a 2010 Korean study found that couples who exchanged foot massages twice a week fought less and communicated better than less touchy couples.


I like it when me makes me feel weak, even if I’m stronger than him at times.

That coquettish grin might be an act. The dance of playing hard to get can make me seem more timid than I’m. Once I’m aroused, my threshold for pain increases—and I may want you to bite, fling, and spank. My man complain that I’m timid in handling his penis because I did not want to hurt it. Same goes with my body. I wish he could be aggressive in his delivery, but sensitive to my needs. And try the take-control move I secretly craves: 46 percent said pinning me down on the bed is the aggressive move most likely to flick my switch. Take those odds.


During penetration, his penis inflates my vaginal wall, and his thrusting stretches out the internal legs of my clitoris (from about 10 millimeters in length to 20 millimeters). This exerts pressure against my vaginal wall and may stimulate my G-spot. The best (and hottest!) positions for exciting my G-spot: me on top, or entry from behind.


I like to look at his penis when we make love.

Notice I did not say “your huge penis.” Women rate extremely long penises as less attractive than those of a more average length, according to a 2010 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior I found at Mouithsone Magazine. Seeing men in action is what excites women. Penises are sexy to women, who are visual creatures, too. In fact, both sexes are turned on more by sight than by other senses. Toss the covers aside or place a mirror beside the bed to give her a better view.

Penny Flame

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When I was first introduced to porn it was accidentally, I found a flyer lying on the street with a phone number and a picture of a naked woman playing with herself. Being fourteen years old I felt some odd attraction and desire for this image. I’ll admit I pleasured myself to the image alone several times. In contrast though I was not out trying to get laid like the majority of my friends and I had some twisted respect for women as an image stirred up so much desire in me.

When I first had sex which was years later I found a desire for that feeling at an uncontrollable rate. I seeked out sex and found that the more taboo and disturbed it was the better the feeling. I seeked out strange porn from midget sex to “Pussy Scans”. I found the more obscure and unusual the sex act in front of me the more my desire for self pleasure rose. The irony of this though is sexually I wanted nothing more than what some would refer to as basic sex.

Now as I think back upon those days and even some of my own fetish and fantasies now I don’t find myself to be the depraved pervert that that social media has labeled others whom were caught looking into similar things. Psychologically speaking men have a desire to expel the lust from their body which is natural, but is it how its manifested that makes us perverts?

This is where a lot of my thoughts lay. I’ll be honest I still look for strange and unusual porn to build up desire. Is this really wrong? I know a few women whom do similar things. To be honest the world is a whole lot more perverse and depraved that one would think. My rant ends here for now, but this is more food for thought than an argument. So please be smart about what I state here and honestly try not to take mob mentality but your own opinion. Thank you

– sexthis YEAR