Guys Ask: Why Doesn’t She Want To Have Sex?

Posted: January 27, 2012 in Uncategorized
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As hot as your sweet loving may be, sometimes your girl isn’t going to be up for getting it on. True, she might really have a headache. But there is a range of other libido killers that might surprise you. Here are some reasons why she’s not feeling so randy.

1. You’re Being Punished

Remember that little tiff you hade a couple of days ago? Well, even though you think it’s been resolved, there’s a chance she’s still peeved and withholding sex as payback. Often, when a woman thinks her guy isn’t taking here feelings into account or he’s calling all the shots, she’ll fight back with the one thing she feels like she does have control over: sex.

2. She Feels Gross

Admit it. You don’t really want to hear about her below-the-belt issues. Likewise, she probably doesn’t want to tell you when it’s that time of the month or she has that not-so-fresh feeling. “To alleviate a woman’s concerns, you need to show her that you’re comfortable with and informed about them,” says Yvonne K. Fullbright, author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex. Relax, you don’t have to rush out and buy her tampons. Just be at ease with what’s going on down there. Once you show her that you’re cool, she might be up for action. If you’re game, great, but if not, you’ll just have to wait a few days.

3. She’s a Stress Case

For both men and women, stress can be a major mood killer. It’s tough to feel sexy when you have a million and one things on the brain. But you can help levitate her libido simply by relieving some of her anxiety. “Make her dinner, give her a massage, or offer to throw in a load of laundry,” suggests one therapist, “the more relaxed she is, the more likely she’ll be to want sex.”

4. You’re A Fierce Flirt

We all love to get attention from the opposite sex, but sometimes there are consequences to making random chicks swoon. “If you’re outright ogling or being suggestive with another woman, that can be hurtful and demeaning to your girlfriend,” says Fullbright, “even though it’s probably harmless, she might feel inadequate and shut you out sexually because she’s feeling insecure or disrespected.” Bottom line: If you’ve spent the entire evening shamelessly chatting up other girls, don’t count on getting laid when you get home. Save your smooth lines for guys’ night.

Comments
  1. I can add a few more reasons…
    Tiredness – especially with a baby…
    Low libido due to dieting…
    Low libido due to breastfeeding…

    I am also interested in the question put by singledorethyofoz… I def want it more than my husband at the moment… Very frustrating!!!

    Love your blog title!!!
    Will be dropping by again soon…. Have to go to work!

    • Valid point, thanks for dropping by, in couple of week I will be posting some tricks related to the question. 🙂

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  2. So what do you do when your guy doesn’t want to have sex and what are possible reasons? I wanted sex at least 3 times a week, but he wanted it maybe once every 3 weeks. :/

    • Well, there are many reasons why my men may not want to have sex at times, and one of them could that he tired, and need some rest. In those case, I exercise some flexibility.

      • Can a guy really be tired all the time? Seriously!! lol He always complained how his job was so stressful and shit (lie lie lie for the most part) and wasn’t in the mood because of stress or being tired, but there just comes a time when you should take one for the team! 🙂

      • Ohiem says:

        I’m not easily impressed. . . but that’s imperssing me! 🙂

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